Happy Birthday!


So, I turned 30. Could not be any happier, I for one, like getting older…the closer I get to become that old guy, who will be in the line at the mall complaining about the old days, only kidding…will be complaining on whatever social media sites will still be around, ain’t nobody got time for face to face confrontation.

But, I just celebrated my 30th had a bit of a soiree, a themed thing, must be me all grown up and things, my idea of a party moved from a hip-hop theme, to a house party, to a Great Gatsby theme where everyone was all dressed up and things. Credit to bae though for pulling the idea off, my directive to her was, “Love, I just want to wear a suit” – and that is how we ended up with a 1920’s themed 30th.

In preparation, we had to get dresses from some dodgy Chinese shops (the 3 sisters looked great, tbh), and then go to China Town for decor (full circle). Lots of planning for venue scouting, guest list deciding, food picking, snack picking, felt like the wedding again, even got my invites made by the same lady, was great fun. Decided to keep it small, went with the exclusive feel, mother in law made thank you gifts which made that feeling a little bit more real.

The highlight of the planning was me selecting the music for the party, took me about 7 days went through music from 1987 (year I was born) to 2017, selected over 350 songs, with a play range of over a day for a party lasting 5 hours 😞 took me another couple of days to select my favourite songs, and then my favourite, favourite songs. Rearranged it to make sure that it had a build up, leading to dancy songs, to chill down music. Sounds boring, was totes exciting to me 😊 and hey, I got to DJ at my own party, that was lots of fun.

If you are subscriber to Apple Music, a playlist of the music that played on the night.

Actually had the idea to write this post to thank everyone for coming, for dressing up, for celebrating my birthday with me. Thanks for the gifts, I leka have new clothes (work clothes) such a great idea, for my 40th, going to request smart casual clothes 😊 I hope everyone that was there enjoyed themselves, you guys are great.

Special shout out to Darcell (from A girl and her camera) for the amazing pictures of everyone on the night 😉

Thanks for reading.



1 Year On


Very true.

So…I have been married for a year, yay to me, and a special congratulations to Darcell for lasting 1 year with me 😛

I thought as a young’n I’d share some of my thoughts on marriage, and yes, I know its only 1 year, and I have tons more to experience, but it definitely won’t hurt looking back, so I can see where I can do better, to make the next year, and years to come a bit easier than the first.

So lets start with what people warned us about:

  1. You will fight over things laying around, or over the not putting the top on the toothpaste, oh yes, and the toilet seat thing – tbh, I have not once brought this up, I think for me, it just a thing of if its quick to do, like picking up something, or putting a top on the toothpaste, just do it.
  2. You will be asked when you will start having kids – this one is so very true. Like all the time hey. Like the reason you got married was to have kids. My approach, entertain it, so now its fun for everyone involved.
  3. Sharing space with another person will make you mad. Well, not if you are selfish. Getting married to someone, and not knowing that you will have share space, things, time, duties, basically anything, is a bit naive to say the least.

There were tons of “tips” given on how to be married, and its all appreciated but two pieces of advice, and tips that prepared me for the reality of marriage came from my sister in law, and my friends sister, they were as follows:

  1. Marriage is leka, you must make the most of the situations you presented with, and grow from there (paraphrasing). This could not be truer, as we are two individuals from different backgrounds, our problems / struggles, are nobody else’s but our own, unique problems / struggles, and it requires solutions that will have to come from the two of us.
  2. This piece of information is really a game changer: You will always be wondering what you will be eating! Like almost all conversations lead there, or start there. “what are we having for supper?” “what we putting on the bread?” “are we going out for supper?” ALL.THE.TIME! This was quite a realisation!

With all the advice and tips, my takeaway for this year of marriage is that, my best friend married me, and we started a life together on the 5th of March 2016, that was one of the best decisions that I decided to make. This year has been nothing short of great, obvs there is room for improvement, if there is not, that I think is more concerning. Marriage / being together / living together with someone who is #inittoowinit with you, defs makes things easier and fun.

This is what I got with my homie Darcell, and my wish is to go through it for a very long time, as long as we can decide what we will be eating, or where to put the shampoo 😉

Thanks for reading.


Happy 27th Birthday to my Fiancé!!

Happiest Birthday to my Fiancé!

Yes, yes. You are 27, big whoop! You are a year older, and wiser. Another year that you can be thankful that you have been given a chance to make the difference you want to everyone around you.

I know when you sit in you quiet moments, you MIGHT think that you are not exactly where you want to be, however, to list a few things you can be thankful for:

  • You are now a licensed driver;
  • You have a job that brings joy to kids that are less fortunate;
  • You are in good health;
  • You have a loving family; and
  • You have a stunning fiancé 😉 haha, just kidding, lol (this is a HIMYM reference – the texty-text episode)

All this, and also a wedding in about 4 months, in where you will embark on a brand new journey together with someone who Loves you dearly, and will do everything, everyday to ensure that you are happy.

My wish for you is that in the year ahead you go out and be fearless in everything you do, you have a great support structure, and have all the skills and personality to back up any move you make. Make this the year of Darcell.

I hope you like you gift, it is two-fold:

  1. The gift was identified in one of our escapades in the malls wHen we were walking around, you said you liked this iteM, so I thought I would get this for you…the hint is staring right at you 😉 (check which letters are Capitalised and Bold)
  2. This part of the gift will give us an idea of what exactly our wedding day will look like (I know, OMG, right?)… see link … https://goo.gl/h7HkZL

Happy Birthday again my love 🙂 Have a fantastic day! May God bless you with many children (this is for me 😉 lol) and all the success possible!


Justin, and DJ

Our Family

Our Family

The Cellphone Killed The Fun in Clubs


So, I was out at an elite club in Camps Bay where, while I was on my phone, I looked up and realised something…about 60% of the dance floor was filled with people that was on their phones. It got me thinking, has this phenomenon of Social Media slowly been killing the dance floor?

Don’t you remember the days where people went to clubs to dance, a place where we could meet and be social with our best tunes playing through massive 18 inch speakers. Those were the days. It’s practically impossible for anyone to leave the house without having your cellphone on your person, and now it seems its creeping into an environment where people use to be away from all the madness that is the world.

So I took this a step further and walked around the said club and glanced at the phones of those who were using them and it was the usual suspects; BBM, Facebook, Twitter. People frantically updating their status’ for their ‘loser’ friends that aren’t at the hot party they are at. Yet, they are the people updating their status in the same hot club? Who the loser now?

I will admit that I have fallen victim to this practice, and I apologise. I don’t know why I do it, however it seems fun…I normally just read these status’ and make comments in my head, lol. I’m judgy in clubs, hey. I actually got this idea for this blog while I was in a club, lol, this is a vicious cycle.

I don’t see this practice slowing down anytime soon. It’s something we got to learn to live with, or I have to learn to live with it 🙂 as long as we get together and get down to the beats of those hard working DJs.

Thanks for reading.



Looking as Sexy as Ever! 😉

Yay!! It’s your birthday!! 😀

Let me be the first to wish you a HUGE Happy Birthday my love! 🙂 I know you struggling to keep up with your age, let me remind you, you are 24 today 🙂

Gods richest blessings on your big day my love, I wish you nothing but happiness and success for the year ahead, there is no one who deserves it more than you lover!!

I hope that for the year ahead you get to achieve all the goals that you set aside for yourself, personally and professionally, I know that you are the type of person that sets goals and goes for it.

I know that the year that just passed might’ve not been the easiest for reasons we both know but you and [I] have made it through it together and we will continue to fight any battle we face.

I hope to be a better boyfriend to you 🙂 and I hope that in the year ahead that I get to show it to you coz you deserve nothing but the best 🙂

I’m sure you are waiting for your hints ne? 🙂

Another year love, and you have been such a sweetheart, I have enjoyed each day I could spend with you. You are awesome! 🙂

*Side Note* writing a letter is more difficult online, there’s so much pressure lol.

Okay so the hints are simple…

“Sometimes we just need space, to take a journey together”

I know right…hectic 🙂





National Breast Cancer Awareness Month

One day as I was sitting at my desk at work, I overheard my colleagues (females) having a conversation sounding something like this:

Female 1: You must touch yourself to find out…

Female 2: (giggles) what do you mean?

Female 1: No, I’m being serious, this is a good way to find out…

Female 2: That’s weird…

Female 1: But they also say that its your partner that normally finds out first…

Female 2: (giggles)

Me: Yor…

Female 1: *looks at me* I’m being serious your partner normally finds outs first if there’s lumps in your breast.


So they were talking about checking your breast for lumps for breast cancer. I don’t know what you guys were thinking…tsk, tsk 🙂

As you may or may not know, its breast cancer awareness month and it’s quite a serious issue. I am not going to throw all sort of facts at you or make all kinds of plea; however I just want to say that it’s something serious and it’s for your own benefit to have yourself checked out just like your HIV status, true story.

I will give you the details of the Cancer Association to find out any details:

Phone: 0800 22 66 22

Website: www.cansa.org.za

You can find them on Facebook (CANSA: Fighting Cancer in South Africa) or Twitter (@CANSA)

To end I have a joke to tell…

Q: What kind of bees makes milk?

A: Boo-Bees

Ladies and Gents, keep your boobies healthy!